Social Media & Influencer Marketing

I’m getting tired of FPAM

If you’re on Facebook, you’re getting FPAM’d, aren’t you?

It sounds pretty funny, but it’s not. I think that’s what I’m going to start calling it… FPAM = Facebook Spam. My email inbox is full of friend invites, real event invitations, virtual friend invitations, my friends have questions to ask me, I should install this Facebook application, I should be their Best Friends, I should talk like a frickin pirate….

Leave me alone, Facebook!

My life doesn’t revolve around Facebook – nor does my online life. Facebook is one of the Social Networks that I belong to. It appears that it’s trying to be all of them. We had that once, it was called Prodigy. Do you guys remember that? AOL was there as well. Both weren’t ISPs at the time, they were trying to be everything you needed online. AOL even made you browse the web with their browser for quite a while.

It didn’t work then, and it’s not going to work now. Facebook – you will not be the center of my life. I have too many friends (outside Facebook), a social life in the real world, and other interests in the virtual world.

Leave me alone, Facebook!

There’s a great idea for an application on facebook, the “Leave Me Alone” application. This application blocks all incoming requests for anything and autoresponds to the requester with an email that says, “Leave Me Alone”. When you visit my Facebook page, it should read, “Leave me Alone!”

Leave me alone, Facebook!

Douglas Karr

Douglas Karr is the founder of the Martech Zone and a recognized expert on digital transformation. Douglas has helped start several successful MarTech startups, has assisted in the due diligence of over $5 bil in Martech acquisitions and investments, and continues to launch his own platforms and services. He's a co-founder of Highbridge, a digital transformation consulting firm. Douglas is also a published author of a Dummie's guide and a business leadership book.

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  1. Hey Doug

    It could be that you’ve to many friends on facebook.

    However, If you don’t want to get invites, then change your search settings on Facebook so no one can find you and make friend requests, message you and so on and so forth. I looked my profile down tighter then a prison and now only get invites/messages from people I want.

  2. I actually deactivated my account a couple days ago. Upon deactivation they ask you why. One of the options were “other” with a text box. They asked for it. I put:

    “Pretty soon you will sell/give my information to advertising campaigns that will target ads specifically towards me, if you haven’t all ready.”

    I doubt it will stir anything over there, but they gave me a chance to put my two cent in. Naturally, I took it!

  3. I can stand the emails from from Facebook about events or wall messages or friend requests. What I can’t stand is emails from applications that I don’t want. If any application emails me then I instantly block it now.

    I like the idea of a “Leave me alone” application though! It would save me 5 minutes a week when I hit “from:facebook” in Gmail and delete the lot.

  4. What you’re describing has recently been defined as bacn.

    But you can actually change the setting on what notifications Facebook sends you – Just look under Account > Notifications. You could uncheck all of the options and then you probably won’t get as many e-mails 😉

  5. I enjoy interacting with friends, especially those with whom I do develop relationship and have things in common with.

    To me, a friend is someone that I know, that I have things in common with, and that we can both add value to each others lives.

    Perhaps what is needed is a ‘grading’ of friends? Some are allowed to get closer than others, while still others are just acquaintances that you see around the place from time to time!

    The ones that bug me are the ‘friends’ that try to sell me something everyday. I’ve begun to ‘unfriend’ them once they start that!

    I’m also sick of being bitten by vampires and werewolves, and am facing the dilemma of running out of my supply of silver bullets!

    What a lot of people don’t realize is that adding applications means that their details are being spread further afield every time they add them!

  6. A lot of helpful opinions in here.

    Also to the comment by Stephen. Facebook launched Flyers Pro on Monday, which is like Google Ad Words. Facebook won’t be selling your information, but their system does read your profile and you’ll see flyers based around what you put down on Facebook from advertiser.

    I don’t think this is a bad thing. I think for most people it’s learning how to use Facebook and tweak it to their taste. I’ve designed it so I only get information that I want, which has been what made Facebook so appealing from the start. If you don’t like something change your settings.

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